Negative (Ghostrider)

Don't forget to stop along the path every so
 often and smell the roses.

5 years ago, I found it impossible to say no to anything anyone asked of me (well ALMOST impossible anyway).

Things got so crazy I remember one of my mates saying that we saw each other more than we saw our parents.  6 nights out of 7, I was committed to a rehearsal, a study group, youth nights... you name it, I was part of it.

It finally came down to the day I had a job interview where a panel of experienced teachers, some who had previously been principals or heads of departments, observed that I already had enough on my plate.  Oh and that they didn't think I would be able to handle the job I was applying for without letting something go.

What to say no to?  I loved being a part of the music team, the youth team, the young adults meetings... in addition to my uni course, family and time for me of course (although I have a sneaking suspicion that the last 3 suffered more than the others).

5 years later, I'm definitely better at saying no but I still find myself wondering and feeling that I am at times overcommitted.

Then a couple of nights ago, it came.  

You can't say no until you've said yes.

While you may be thinking... what the... this is what I got out of it. 

Until you've said YES and have a purpose or goal in sight, you will never have a reason to say yes or no. When you have a goal in sight, you will do all you can in order to reach or achieve it as soon as you can.  Thus, when faced with a "are you able to help with this?" moment, you are more likely to already have an answer.

So, that's where I got to.  What is it that I've said yes to?  What is this end goal that I am striving for?  

That is still a work in progress.

Have a great weekend.  Stay safe.